Ruth's Ramblings

Marriage lessons

#1: Don't nag. I realize that subsconsciously I can't help the tendency to open my mouth and treat him like a child: "You did this all wrong" or "Why did you wait til the last minute to finish this?" or "Why can't you ever get this right?!" or "That was really dumb." The tongue is such a powerful instrument, and it can easily build up my man and just as easily tear him down as well. My role is not to "fix" him to be what I want him to be - but to build him up and encourage him with the strengths that God has given him. As a supporter and encourager, I have to consciously remember to hold my tongue at the right times, and remember to encourage him at the right times. (A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping; Proverbs 19:13)

#2: Don't be so self-centered. I often focus alot on my needs and what I want, and how W is going to serve/treat me .... and I don't think twice about his needs and how to serve him. Selfishness and self-centeredness doesn't work too well in a successful growing relationship...

Posted by Ruth at 2/10/2004